Guided Meditation Tips

Don’t Want To Do The Work But Have To? Try Saying “OK”

Question

At work, there are many occasions when I have to make myself work on something that I don’t like. It doesn’t seem to suit me well and things don’t go as intended, so I wonder if it’s really necessary that I do it. Then when I look at my colleagues and superiors around me who adjust well and work hard, I start feeling inferior.

Answer

Not everything in the world will happen your way. As you work, you may have to do work that doesn’t exactly suit you, but there are also many times that you will work on something that does. This is the case for everyone at any job. Rather than contemplating about whether or not you should do that job, how about saying “OK”? But if you still feel too unsure at the moment you decide, try the following steps.

1. Reflect on yourself about why you don’t want to do the work.

Why don’t I want to do it? What do I seek to gain from that work? Ask yourself such questions and reflect. Do I not want to do the work because it doesn’t suit my personality? Or because I don’t like the people I work with? Or because there’s no sense of achievement? Or because it is overwhelming? Look into your mind and find the reasons why.

2. If you have to do the work even if you don’t want to, then say “OK”.

If you say “OK”, you can at least start to make yourself work. Once you accept the work that you don’t want to do, then you can start to see the positive aspects of it and will gain courage that you can do it. Thinking that you don’t want to do it will make you dislike the work more, but if you say “OK”, your attitude can change. Additionally, if you throw away the various mindsets and thoughts that you found in the previous step through meditation, you will be able to say “OK” more easily. Since not everything in the world will be something you want to work on, if you overcome one task at a time, you will grow to become a better you.

You Can’t Make Everyone Happy

Question

As I work, I come across many people. But it’s difficult to satisfy everyone. When I draft a business proposal, some departments have complaints while other departments like it. It’s not easy to find a compromise between all the opinions and there are many moves I can’t make because of regulations, but there are times that I get all the criticism. Although these are proposals for the well-being of the company, people always have something to complain about for every proposal, so I lose self-esteem and don’t know what to do.

Answer

Craigslist founder, Craig Newmark said, “Realize that you can’t make everyone happy.”

First, you must admit that no one can satisfy everyone. No one is perfect and can do everything. That’s why it is a company; it is important to have procedures to mediate between different opinions and make them meet and to find ways for everyone to work together. More than anything, you must find yourself. It is possible that the work you do doesn’t suit your personality or isn’t for you. But you should first reflect on yourself about whether your current job is difficult simply because of relations with other people or because of personality. Work is difficult for anyone. But you probably know what you were thrilled and focused on, even though things didn’t happen your way. That is the meaning of life that moves you. Meditation is a process to reflect deeply on yourself to understand yourself. Hopefully, meditation can become an opportunity for you to find yourself. And based on your question, it seems like you are truly positive when trying to make something work. Most people believe that flowing with the given conditions or environment is doing their best, but that is because they value the external environment more than themselves and have given up on themselves. If you take no action, nothing will work out.